Let Them: Our Honest Take on the Viral Mantra | YKMS

Episode Overview:

In this episode of You Keep Me Sane, Aileen and Julie dive into the power behind Mel Robbins’ now-viral “Let Them Theory.” From navigating tricky relationships to handling judgement and unmet expectations, they explore why this simple mindset shift can be so freeing—and so hard to put into practice.

Drawing on their own stories of burnout, people-pleasing, and family conflict, they unpack how learning to “let them” has helped them reclaim their energy, protect their peace, and stop hustling for approval. It’s not about being passive—it’s about releasing control, embracing authenticity, and choosing yourself.

Key Discussion Points:

How the Let Them Theory became a tool in their personal growth journeysWhy detachment from outcomes isn't the same as detachment from loveThe role of control in people-pleasing and over-explainingLetting go of the need to be seen a certain way by othersThe difference between surrender and checking outWhy “let them” doesn’t always apply—especially in parentingHow fear of rejection or judgement often drives over-effortingChoosing yourself: protecting peace, energy, and authenticityThe difference between trying to keep people close vs. letting them driftUsing “let them” as a circuit-breaker for anxiety and self-doubt

Listener Takeaways:

You don’t have to fix or manage everyone’s reaction to you.“Let them” is a powerful mindset to reclaim peace and clarity.Boundaries aren’t walls—they’re a return to your centre.Surrendering control doesn’t mean giving up—it means trusting more.You can’t force connection. If it’s real, it doesn’t need chasing.

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Hosts: Aileen Harvey & Julie Fahy

Editor: Allia Lenit Galos

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Disclaimer:

Remember, we’re two friends sharing our personal experiences and discussing everyday challenges. We’re not qualified coaches or therapists, and our content is for general information and supportive conversation only. If you need professional help, please seek advice from a licensed therapist.

For 8 years, Aileen and Julie have been each other's sounding board from opposite sides of the globe – Aileen in London and Julie in Melbourne.

They have navigated everything – motherhood, relationships, menopause, health, grief, and everything in between – through daily voice messages. These exchanges often became lifelines, and now they share that space with their listeners.

In You Keep Me Sane, Aileen and Julie hold honest conversations on life's challenges, growth, and connection. They lend an ear and share heartfelt insights, creating a space that allows both them, and you, to be human.

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