I Don’t Know What I Want (And Neither Do You) - Desire, Doubt & Discovery in Non-Monogamy and Real Life
Why is it so damn hard to know what we really want?
In this vulnerable and unfiltered episode, April and Scott get real about the psychological and emotional roadblocks that make naming our desires feel confusing, overwhelming, and even scary—especially in non-monogamy.
They explore:
• Why childhood and culture train us to want what’s safe—not what’s true
• The difference between relief and real desire
• Why pretending to “want what they want” can quietly destroy you
• How non-monogamy doesn’t make desire clearer—it just makes it louder
• The 3 most common mistakes people make when trying to name what they want
• Practical tools to help you reconnect to your real, wild, messy desires
Plus, they share personal stories, relationship bumps, and how desire work is showing up in their own marriage, right now.
This one’s for anyone who’s ever said, “I don’t know who I am anymore” or “I’m not sure what I want—but I know it’s not this.”
🎧 Listen, breathe, reflect—and start the journey back to your truest self.
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NAUGHTY GYM SHOW - Intersection of Non-Monogamy & Wellness
We are April and Scott, creators of NaughtyGym.com and this is the Naughty Gym Show.
For years we’ve been fitness and nutrition coaches to thousands of people through our commercial gyms and online platform. We’ve also spent nearly a decade in an ever-evolving, open relationship.
This show brings together our two biggest passions, fitness and sex positivity. Our mission is to maximize the physical, emotional, and sexual health of the sex positive community.
We have demolished our old ways of thinking about relationships and from that rubble built a life full of happiness, adventure, and vitality. And now we want to help you do the same.
So hop on the treadmill, start the show, and let us teach you how to Never Stop Playing.
- No. of episodes: 53
- Latest episode: 2025-07-22
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