EPISODE 207 The Foreplay Episode: The 5 Things We’re All Getting Wrong
Ready for our go-to masterclass on one of the most overlooked (but absolutely essential) parts of intimacy?
We’re bringing back one of our most downloaded episodes of all time — and trust us, it’s worth a re-listen (or a first-time bender if you’re new around here).
Foreplay — the most misunderstood, rushed-through, and skipped-over part of sex. But here’s the truth: foreplay isn’t optional. It’s not just a warm-up. It’s the whole damn vibe.
In this episode, we’re breaking down the 5 biggest mistakes couples make when it comes to foreplay — and how to turn things around so it actually feels good (for both of you).
Here’s what we’re diving into:
Why “just get to the point” is killing the vibe
What makes receiving foreplay so hard (especially for women — hi, it’s not your fault)
The most common foreplay ruts we all fall into
How to make foreplay fun again — not forced, awkward, or performative
A mindset shift that will change how you think about sex forever
Whether you’re feeling stuck, unsure what your partner wants, or just ready for a heck of a lot more pleasure… this episode is your permission slip.
Links & Resources:
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Meet Vanessa and Xander Marin, your new BFF couple friends! She’s a sex therapist with 20 years of experience and he’s a regular dude. Together they’re the shockingly open, slightly nerdy, and seriously funny couple you want to grab sushi with. They share the ups and downs in their relationship while giving you step-by-step techniques for improving yours. Subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally do-able sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors, and so much more. It’s the sex education you WISH you’d had!
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