Episode 206: Butt Stuff 101: Everything You’re Too Afraid To Ask
We’re bringing back a fan favorite this week… and yep, we’re going there.
Butt stuff. 🍑
Back in 2021, we dropped an episode all about backdoor play, and it quickly became one of our most popular episodes of all time. With over 200 Pillow Talks episodes under our belts now, we figured it was time to make it a little easier to find the gems — so for the first time ever, we’re re-airing one of our top episodes.
Whether you’re a little butt-curious or already a full-blown booty enthusiast, there’s something in this one for you. Because here’s the deal:
👉 72% of our Instagram fam said they were intimidated by anal play.
👉 But 67% also said they were curious about trying it.
That means even if you’re nervous… you’re still open. And we love that.
In this episode, we cover:
Why butt stuff might be worth a try (even if you’re scared)
The biggest myths and misconceptions (hint: it’s not just anal sex)
How to keep things safe, hygienic, and pain-free
Why more straight men are embracing the backdoor (and loving it)
Your most vulnerable Qs — from hairy buttholes to hemorrhoids to the “what if vaginal sex doesn’t feel like enough after?” convo
Oh — and if you’ve listened before? It’s still worth a re-listen. You might hear something new, have a totally different take four years later, or finally feel ready to give it a try. 😉
Last call for two spicy fan favorites 🔥
We just launched our brand-new membership, **Deeper** — which gives you instant access to all of our core courses, monthly double dates with us, VanessaAI, and more. With that, we’re officially retiring a few of our a la carte guides—including two of our best sellers:
👉 Butt Stuff 🍑
👉 Dirty Talk 101
This is your last chance to grab them outside of the membership. After May 4, they’ll be gone for good.
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