Having It All and Still Asking: Is This It? with Josh Fineman

In this episode, we're joined by Josh Fineman. Josh had the career, the young family, the success but behind it all was exhaustion, self-doubt, and a relentless voice asking, “Is this it?”

In this honest and revealing conversation, Josh shares how growing up as the ‘good boy’ in a high-achieving North London household shaped his adult identity. He talks about the unspoken grief that filled the family home, the hidden cost of seeking approval, and the endless comparisons that wore him down.

What followed were years of chasing status, zigzagging through jobs, and numbing out until a crisis forced a reckoning. Therapy cracked the door open, but it was men’s work - raw, in-person, shoulder-to-shoulder - that truly began to transform his life.

Josh went on to create Mensch, a community where men come together to rediscover connection, purpose, and truth - with boots on the ground and fires lit -locally around the country.

We talk about masculinity, parenting, legacy, and why so many men who "have it all" still feel empty. Josh speaks candidly about fear of failure, starting something meaningful, and the power of local brotherhood.

If you’ve ever quietly wondered, “What happened to me?” or “Is this all there is?” then this episode is for you.

Have you ever felt like you’ve become lost in your own life? 

Many men struggle to talk about their problems and mental health and grew up believing that to do can be perceived as a sign of weakness or failure. There is also a lack of open discussion in society around men’s mental health, especially aimed at mid-life men.  As a result, at times many men can feel alone and lost in their own lives. 

In this podcast series, I talk to mid-life men about their stories; the challenges, the turning points, and the support received to help them find their way so that others who may be suffering in silence or don’t know what to do next, realise that they are not alone and there is help available. 

Stories will cover a whole range of challenges faced by mid-life men mainly relating to the causes of mental health issues including feelings of isolation, depression, job dissatisfaction, addiction, PTSD, and long-term illness.

The podcast is NOT a replacement for professional support and we signpost to organisations and their contact details by episode. 

If you have a story you would like to share or any feedback on the podcasts, please email me: [email protected].

• No. of episodes: 60
• Latest episode: 2025-06-23
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