"Why Dismissive Avoidants Shut Down, Pull Away, and Struggle to Love"
There’s a reason dismissive avoidants shut down when things get too close. It’s not just cold behavior, it’s protection. In this episode, we go deep into the world of dismissive avoidant attachment: where it starts, how it shapes their personality, and why love feels like a threat to their nervous system.
You'll learn how many avoidants grew up in emotionally neglectful environments, taught to be independent before they were ever ready. They didn’t learn to rely on others, they learned it wasn’t safe to need anyone. And that story? It doesn’t just disappear. It becomes the blueprint for how they handle relationships.
Whether you’re anxiously attached, in love with someone who pulls away, or you recognize yourself in this dynamic, this episode will meet you where you are. You’ll leave with a deeper understanding of avoidants, not from judgment, but from compassion.
This is for anyone who's ever felt confused by a dismissive partner who “needs space,” struggles to open up, or shuts down right when things get real.
🧠 Understand the Dismissive avoidant’s early wounds
💔 What their core wounds are
💔 Why connection triggers their flight response
🛑 And how you can stop personalizing their distance by understanding them
🛑 If you are the dismissive avoidant listening, how to begin to just heal and be present
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Love Better & Life Better
Love Better is a safe and loving space where we talk about the real, raw parts of relationships. I’m Shazmeen, and in this podcast, I’ll be sharing my own story and the lessons I’ve learned about attachment styles, relationship healing, and self love. We’ll talk about how attachment styles shape the way we connect, the struggles of addiction your fearful or dismissive avoidant partner may have to pornography or other levels they numb feeling away, what happens when intimacy fades in sexless relationships, and how losing touch with our inner child can impact how we love. You will walk away with lessons and tools to improve your current relationships, walk away from ones that no longer serve you and learn how to build new relationships from a place of secure foundations. We will break down anxious attachment, secure attachment, fearful avoidant attachment and dismissive attachment and the deep role our attachment styles play in the way we intimately relate to others and ourselves. The key will be to grow to be more securely attached. But most importantly, I’ll be here offering support, kindness, and compassion as we explore how to heal these wounds. My hope is that through these conversations, you’ll feel seen, heard, and empowered to rebuild the love and connection you deserve—starting with yourself. I wanted to create a podcast that felt like you are talking and listening to a friend. One that cares deeply for your ability to love better. We will dive deep into how our attachment styles hold a foundation for a lot of the decisions we make. You will gain an insight into your "why's" and learn from a place of no judgement. You will learn how to communicate better, resolve challenges and handle conflict from a new perspective. I hope you enjoy listening to this podcast whilst on a walk, jog, in the tub or taking yourself on a date. Lets get vulnerable together and as we heal remember we can love better. NO more blaming, critiquing and shaming yourself and your partner.
Life better is a segment that drops every Thursday and will teach you self mastery, mastering emotions and how to take responsibility of your life. I will give you tools you can use weekly to grow into the version of "self" you are born to be.
- No. of episodes: 26
- Latest episode: 2025-07-17
- Education Self-Improvement
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