“How to Let Go of the Past — And Finally Start Healing”
You’re still hurting. And you’re still healing. Those two things can exist together.
In this episode, I walk with you through the kind of healing that doesn’t happen overnight — the kind that asks you to slow down, feel what’s real, and show up for yourself with compassion.
You can feel so much shame when healing, like you should never have been in this position, or shame for hurting someone. We all deserve to heal and it does not look like one perfect smooth road. But the bumps now are a blessing when you have the tools to deal with them.
I got raw about my process to show you how human it can be and standing on the other side of all the heavy lifting, my nervous system lives more in safety now than it ever has. That can be a proud moment after all the work you put in.
I talk about what it means to sit with your emotions instead of running from them, how to label and feel your feelings without shame, and how to stop villainizing the people who’ve hurt you — so you can finally reclaim your peace. (This takes work and only happens after you do honour your pain).
You’ll learn how your nervous system holds emotional pain, why regulation is the first step toward healing, and how to build emotional safety from the inside out. I also share gentle, practical tips to support you when the pain still feels raw — and remind you that it’s okay to make mistakes, take time, and heal imperfectly.
🎧 Inside this episode:
How to feel emotions without drowning in themWhy labeling feelings helps calm your systemThe difference between protecting yourself and punishing othersNervous system basics: sympathetic vs. parasympathetic explained simplySelf-compassion tools for when you're spiraling in guilt or shameWhy healing isn’t about doing it perfectly — just doing it with love✨ If you're human and hurting — this one's for you.
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Love Better & Life Better
Love Better is a safe and loving space where we talk about the real, raw parts of relationships. I’m Shazmeen, and in this podcast, I’ll be sharing my own story and the lessons I’ve learned about attachment styles, relationship healing, and self love. We’ll talk about how attachment styles shape the way we connect, the struggles of addiction your fearful or dismissive avoidant partner may have to pornography or other levels they numb feeling away, what happens when intimacy fades in sexless relationships, and how losing touch with our inner child can impact how we love. You will walk away with lessons and tools to improve your current relationships, walk away from ones that no longer serve you and learn how to build new relationships from a place of secure foundations. We will break down anxious attachment, secure attachment, fearful avoidant attachment and dismissive attachment and the deep role our attachment styles play in the way we intimately relate to others and ourselves. The key will be to grow to be more securely attached. But most importantly, I’ll be here offering support, kindness, and compassion as we explore how to heal these wounds. My hope is that through these conversations, you’ll feel seen, heard, and empowered to rebuild the love and connection you deserve—starting with yourself. I wanted to create a podcast that felt like you are talking and listening to a friend. One that cares deeply for your ability to love better. We will dive deep into how our attachment styles hold a foundation for a lot of the decisions we make. You will gain an insight into your "why's" and learn from a place of no judgement. You will learn how to communicate better, resolve challenges and handle conflict from a new perspective. I hope you enjoy listening to this podcast whilst on a walk, jog, in the tub or taking yourself on a date. Lets get vulnerable together and as we heal remember we can love better. NO more blaming, critiquing and shaming yourself and your partner.
Life better is a segment that drops every Thursday and will teach you self mastery, mastering emotions and how to take responsibility of your life. I will give you tools you can use weekly to grow into the version of "self" you are born to be.
- No. of episodes: 16
- Latest episode: 2025-06-05
- Education Self-Improvement
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