BJ’S: Finding the Pleasure vs. Being A Chore

Let’s talk about blowjobs.

Not the performative, porn-scripted kind. And not the kind you give just to “get it over with.” We’re talking about the ones that are offered from genuine turn-on, deep connection, and sovereign choice.

In this week’s episode, we open up about a very real part of our journey- how something that used to feel like a chore (for Kim) became a space of embodied pleasure, sacred play, and deep trust between us.

And it’s not just about blowjobs. It’s about what happens when you remove pressure, drop the old stories, and let truth and turn-on take the lead.

Quick summary into this week's episode:

The difference between performing and feelingHow porn culture and shame hijack connectionWhy sacred sex has nothing to do with technique and everything to do with safetyHow feedback can be foreplayAnd why your body will always tell the truth (if you’re willing to listen)

And many more!

If you’re someone who’s already been on this path…

Who’s done the workshops, studied the teachings, and experienced sacred sex in its fullness…

But you know there’s another layer waiting to be unlocked…

We’d love to invite you deeper.

Our private couples retreats are for the ones who are ready for the next level of turn-on, tenderness, and truth. It’s one-on-one work with us at our lakeside sanctuary in Ontario—a space designed for sacred re-patterning, embodied pleasure, and soul-deep partnership.

💫 And as a thank-you to our listeners, if you book a call with us before July 31st, and schedule your retreat by October 31st, 2025, you’ll receive $1000 off.

👉 Book your private retreat exploration call here: https://calendly.com/talk-to-kim/exploration-call

About us:

Kim & Roberto are the co-founders of Phoenix Rising Retreats, and the real-life couple behind the mic. Together, they guide couples into deeper body, mind, and soul-based connection through sacred sexuality, Tantra, conscious communication, and nervous system healing.

Kim is a teacher, speaker, and Bestselling Author, bringing years of trauma-informed, professionally certified Intimacy, Relationship & Tantra coaching experience to the podcast mic...

And Roberto joins her side, sharing his grounded masculine insight, hard-knocks inspired wisdom, and a refreshing no-BS perspective on what it actually takes to show up in love.

What started as their own late-night “date night” Tantric adventures turned into a life-changing journey... and now, a re-birthed podcast season for couples who are ready to reignite their passion, deepen their partnership, and rise together.

They’re here to tell the truth about what it means to build sacred partnership- not the filtered, social-media version, but the real, raw, beautifully messy kind that actually lasts.

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BJ’S: Finding the Pleasure vs. Being A Chore

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