Third Culture Kids | Girls Experiences of Boarding School | AEM #126 – Nicky Moxey & Dr Linda Devereux

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What is a third culture kid (TCK)I would love for you to share what drew you both to create this book about women's experiences boarding school and being Third Culture Kids?Could you please speak to how many of the women missed their adopted homelands and how much this negatively impacted their impressions of the UK?Could you please talk about the research for how children have a very sensory response to place which impacts how they respond to new geographies for the rest of their lives?What was the sensory difference between their homes and boarding school?In particular, we might like to chat about the following if that works for you:Our stories – similarities and differences – both TCK – Nicky mercantile, Linda missionary. Writing a book about women’s experiences by women was important to us both. Less has been written about this and some of the books about women have had less traction in the media than those written by and about men. All but one of our participants identify as women. Being different is not safe at BS. Different ‘rules’ for men and women – binaries – impossible to ‘be’ otherwise.Women in our book felt growing up in a BS was isolating and conformist – either just treated like a bloke in skirts (with no discussion of women’s bodily functions or needs, or, raised to be “young ladies” – Joy Schaverien’s comment on this is that men go to BS to learn to serve their country, while women are taught to serve men. Shame used as a tool of control – probably reinforced discomfort in our skin and shame about our bodies – constantly ‘on show’ and not it a good way. Eg headmaster who ‘supervised’ showers – female staff often not in positions of power and are also constrained/disadvantaged by patriarchal structures. Poisonous pedagogy – designed to break the child’s will – often early (first afternoon, first night, first meal) and public – so everyone saw the shame.

Nicky Moxey, an ex-boarder, originally spent 33 years as a project manager and Agile coach. She is retraining as an integrative counsellor and intends to work with boarding school survivors after she qualifies.

Linda Devereux is a third culture kid with more than 40 years of teaching experience in schools and universities. Linda is an Adjunct Research Fellow at Charles Sturt University, Australia, where she researches and publishes in the fields of transcultural childhoods, life narrative, boarding school, and the transition to university.

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To buy the book: https://amzn.eu/d/1yXj4rn

Or :https://www.routledge.com/Exploring-Boarding-School-Challenges-for-Women-and-Third-Culture-Kids-Worlds-Away-from-Home/Moxey-Devereux/p/book/9781032876313

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Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems.

He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man.

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