Why Doesn’t My Kid Listen? (And What to Do Instead of Yelling)

After Bedtime with Big Little Feelings · 2025-07-16

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You’re not imagining it: Your kid isn’t listening. But it’s not because they’re defiant. It’s not because you’re a bad parent. And it’s definitely not because you haven’t yelled loud enough. In this episode, we reveal what’s actually going on when your child “doesn’t listen” - and the 5 research-backed strategies that will change everything.

You’ll learn:

Why kids struggle to process directions (hint: it’s their brain, not bad behavior)How giving your child just 8 seconds can increase cooperation by up to 40%The common parenting habits that backfire—and what to do insteadThe science of co-regulation, timing, and how to speak so kids actually hear youWhat to say, how to say it, and how to stop yelling (without losing your authority)

This episode is part wake-up call, part emotional gut check, and part masterclass in getting your kid to listen without fear, shame, or bribes. If you’re stuck in the repeat-yell-regret cycle? Press play. There’s a better way - and we’re here to show it to you.

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After Bedtime with Big Little Feelings

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